If you ever have a chance, I recommend sitting in on Thomas Grohser’s presentation called “Why candidates fail the job interview in the first minute.” (Tom is a great speaker, and I suggest you go hear him talk, anyway!) In his presentation, he discusses a number of reasons why job candidates often blow the job interview. The first time I sat in on his presentation, I asked him what I thought were some good questions — so good, in fact, that the next time I attended a SQL Saturday where he gave that presentation, he asked me to sit in just so I could ask those same questions and make some comments as a talking point for the audience. (He even joked about utilizing me as a prop for his presentation!)
One of the points that he makes in his presentation is that a candidate is not expected to know everything. We are human, and we are not perfect. Nobody is all-knowing, and as well-versed as we try to be on a subject, we won’t know everything about it. Even experts in a subject field won’t know every little thing about their subject
Tom mentions that when he interviews a job candidate, he will ask at least one question that either does not have a correct answer, may have multiple correct answers, or is ambiguous. (For those of you who are not DBAs, data professionals often joke that the standard answer is, “it depends.”) He is not looking for a singular correct answer; rather, he is looking for how the candidate answers.
This brought to mind a memory of a class I took in grad school. I missed a class because I was out sick, and it turned out that the material covered that day ended up as a question on the mid-term exam. I don’t remember exactly how I answered that question, but I remember starting it something like this: “I don’t remember going over this subject, but based on the nature of this question, this is what I think it means…” Not only did I end up answering the question correctly, I ended up getting a 97 (out of 100) on the exam.
So if you don’t know the answer, how would you go about getting it? These days, technology makes it easy to look things up online. “Google it” has become a part of our lexicon. Trying to find answers is our basis for research; if we don’t have the answer, we try to figure out what it is. That is how we learn. I’ll go as far to say that not knowing an answer is better than trying to fake your way through providing an answer. Would you rather give an answer you don’t know and end up giving a wrong answer, or would you rather take the time to do your homework and give a better answer?
Too many of us stress ourselves out because we try to be perfect. Any time we are tested — whether it’s on an exam, a job interview, or any instance where we are expected to give testimony — we expect ourselves to be perfect. We expect to have the answer to every question. The reality is that this is impossible. We won’t have every answer, and we shouldn’t expect to. “I don’t know” is a perfectly acceptable answer, and too many people don’t realize that. Just say that you don’t know, and explain how you’d go about finding out. And the next time you’re asked the question, you’ll have a better answer.
Years ago, I went to visit my brother at his place in Queens. I remember sneaking a peek into his home office. As a reminder to himself, he’d stuck a label on his computer monitor with four words, in all caps: WRITE IT DOWN, STUPID!!!
This is pretty much my own mantra as well. Any time I have an important task that needs to be addressed, I’ll do one of two things: either 1) do it right away, or 2) make a note to take care of it later. I know myself well-enough that if I don’t do either, the task will either not get done or an important deadline or opportunity will be missed.
There is a reason why technical communication is such a passion of mine. I’ve seen countless examples in the professional world where things are not documented. I’ve heard a variety of excuses of why they’re not documented: “Oh it’s not that difficult to remember.” “It’s intuitively obvious.” “It cannot be missed.” “I won’t forget that one.” “I don’t have to bother with it now. I’ll get to it later.” And so on. And so on. And so on.
It’s not just professional communication, either. When was the last time that you came up with a great idea that could change the world? Did you write it down? If you didn’t, do you even remember what it was?
I’ve long been a believer that open and honest communication is a game-changer. Indeed, I’ve often told people that “90% of the world’s problems can be solved through communication.” (Before you ask, no, I don’t have any hard evidence or statistics to back that up, but it is something I believe.)
Writing things down is a core part of communication. When you write things down, you aren’t just communicating with other people; you’re communicating with yourself — your future self — as well.
“The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.”
— Lao Tzu
Earlier this week, a friend at my CrossFit gym (and who has become more interested SQL Saturday and my SQL user group) asked me if I thought a talk about Excel would make a good topic for SQL Saturday. I said, why not? If it’s a talk that data professionals would find interesting, then it would make for a good talk. I encouraged him to attend our next user group meeting and talk to our group chair about scheduling a presentation.
I’ve written before about how local user groups are a wonderful thing. It is a great place to network and socialize. It is a free educational source. And if you’re looking to get started in a public speaking forum, your local user group is a great place to start.
That user group presentation was in 2015. I’ve been speaking at SQL Saturdays ever since then.
If you’re interested in getting into speaking, if you want to meet new people who share your interests, or even if you just want to learn something new, go find a local user group that matches your interests and check it out. You’ll find it to be a great place to kickstart your endeavors, and it could lead to bigger things.
This morning, a friend posted to my Facebook that my letter, to my surprise, was garnering some attention. I won’t say that it’s gone viral, but apparently, it’s caught a number of eyes.
I should note that my donations haven’t been much. I was only a graduate student at Rensselaer, not an undergrad, so the social impact on my life wasn’t quite the same, and other financial obligations have kept me from donating more of my money. That said, I’ve donated in other ways; I’ve been a hockey season ticket holder for many years (going back to my days as a student), I’ve attended various events (sports, cultural, etc.) on campus, and I’ve donated some of my time to the Institute.
Although my donations have been relatively meager, more importantly, I wanted to spread the word that I was no longer supporting RPI, and exactly why I was discontinuing my support. How much I was contributing isn’t the issue; the issue is that I am stopping contributing. For the first time in years, I have no intention of setting foot in the Field House for a hockey game during a season. I wanted to make clear exactly why. A large number of alumni have announced that they were withholding donations. I wanted to add to that chorus. It wasn’t so much how much I was donating; rather, I wanted to add my voice, and hopefully encourage other students and alumni to take action against an administration that I deem to be oppressive.
One of RPI’s marketing catchphrases is, “why not change the world?” It looks like I’m doing exactly that with my letter. Don’t underestimate the power of words. Indeed, with just a few words, you can change the world.
This is a reblog of an article written by my friend, Steve Jones. I would hope that this is something that goes without saying among data professionals like myself, but I think that it’s important enough that it’s worth repeating (and reblogging).
Many of us that are DBAs and/or sysadmins find ourselves with privileged access to many systems. We can often read the data that’s stored in these systems, whether that’s a relational database, a NoSQL store, or even a mail system. As a result, it is incumbent upon us to be trustworthy and maintain confidentiality with privileged information.
Overall I think most of us do this, but there are always some rogue administrators out there, some of which might take malicious actions. There have been a few people that were arrested or sued for hacking into systems, trashing backups, or causing other issues. Often those are emotional outbursts that disrupt operations, and many people are aware there is an issue. However, what if people weren’t aware they were being hacked in some way?
I ran across this story about some “admin” software being sold on a hacker forum site, which was…
“I gotta run a little faster; I gotta reach for the sky; I gotta come a little closer; even if I lose, I gotta try…”
— Kansas, “Inside Of Me”
“Try not. Do. Or do not. There is no try.”
Every Saturday, my CrossFit gym invites friends to join members for workouts (“Bring A Friend Day,” as it’s called). It’s a little bit of a misnomer, as guests don’t necessarily have to be friends — as one coach likes to describe it, “bring your friends, neighbors, coworkers, colleagues, enemies, ‘frenemies,’ whomever.” It doesn’t necessarily have to be by invitation; anyone interested in trying CrossFit can come to these classes — a type of “try before you buy” session, if you will.
I’ve tried to get friends to go to these sessions, with mixed success. Those who do enjoy the sessions, but I have yet to have one friend (other than my wife) try it out and join the gym. (Admittedly, there are fringe benefits for me to get someone to sign up — a month of free membership, for example.)
What’s interesting is those who don’t try it and outright refuse my offer to join me. (As I tell people, joining me in these sessions pretty much guarantees that I will work out on Saturday!) I tried to tell one friend that I thought CrossFit might benefit her. Not only did she outright refuse to take me up on it, I got the impression that she was actually scared to try it. She would not even keep an open mind about it; she just said, “I will NOT do it. Don’t ever ask me about it again.” End of conversation.
My question: why???
I would never twist anyone’s arm into trying it (well, okay, maybe friends with whom I know I can get away with it), but what I don’t completely understand is why people fear it. I get why people won’t do things like go bungee-jumping (disclosure: I am deathly acrophobic), eating exotic foods (I’ll try almost anything, although I draw the line at anything that has more than four legs, shellfish excluded — Andrew Zimmern I’m not!), or do something on a dare. But why are people afraid to try CrossFit?
I think part of it is that it’s human nature to fear what you don’t know. People will see these images of CrossFit (I often post what I do on Facebook) and immediately get the impression that they’re expected to be able to lift large amounts of weights, be pushed to do double-unders, or be able to do pull-ups right off the bat. The fear of “gymtimidation” comes into play. People who fear it are likely afraid of being embarrassed or injured.
First, one of the selling points of CrossFit is that anyone can do it. I’ve seen people as old as eighty (and even more!) in the gym. I once saw a guy who had the use of only one arm in a workout (it was interesting watching him on a rower and an Assault bike). I’ve seen newbies who struggle with weightlifting form. Even I have my own struggles; I can’t (yet) do any moves that involve pulling myself up (pull-ups, muscle-ups, rope climbs, etc.), I have trouble with movements that involve squatting (I was diagnosed with osteoarthritis in my knees), and I’m not exactly the fastest runner (for me, there’s almost no difference between a jog, a sprint, or a fast walk). Heck, even some warmups can sometime leave me out of breath.
However, one of CrossFit’s selling points is that it is scalable. You are never asked to do anything you are not capable of doing. If you have trouble with pull-ups (like I do), you can do barbell pull-ups or ring rows. Unable to do a certain type of weightlifting movement? Don’t worry about the weight; instead, use a lighter weight, an empty bar, or even a PVC pipe, and practice your technique. Whatever movement gives you trouble, there is always a way to scale it that will allow you to perform it to your capabilities.
I’m sure the fear of being injured comes into play. As I just said, you’ll never be pushed to do what you’re not capable of doing. But one of the selling points for me is that CrossFit emphasizes technique. If you are not sure about how to do a movement, coaches will teach you how. If your form has issues, coaches will tweak it so it is better. Technique is key to anything: the better your form, the less chance you’ll be injured.
I also think the intensity is a factor. CrossFit can get very intense. Admittedly, there isn’t a lot that’s enjoyable about working your tail off to the point where you’re gasping for breath and end up lying on the floor. That’s something that can scare people off. However, how hard you work out is up to you. Intensity is what you make of it. But why is it so intense?
I think it’s because the majority of people who take CrossFit seriously want to improve. People push themselves because they want to get better at what they do. Did a deadlift weight of 305 pounds? Next time, I’m going to try 315. Run 5,000 meters in under ten minutes? Next time, shoot for nine. CrossFit is about making yourself better. While you are not asked to do anything you can’t do, you are asked to challenge yourself and push the limits of what you can do. Even my own gym’s motto is “(Be)tter” (as in, “be better”). I wrote before that you have to get uncomfortable in order to improve. Making yourself better involves going out of your comfort zone. How much discomfort — intensity — you decide to put into it is up to you.
Finally, there’s the phenomenon that Planet Fitness refers to as “gymtimidation.” People are embarrassed by their lesser skill level and are often intimidated by performing in front of other people who are in much better shape. This attitude does not exist in CrossFit. Everyone — even the elite athletes — roots for everyone else to succeed. I remember one time watching the CrossFit Games on TV and hearing the commentator say, “CrossFit is probably the only sport in which the person who comes in last gets the loudest cheers.” Even in events where athletes are finished, they will often go back out into the field to cheer on and encourage those who are still working through the event. Here’s a secret: everyone, at some point in their lives, was a beginner at something. Someone once said that one of the worst phrases ever coined was “do it right the first time.” It’s almost never done right the first time. Fear of embarrassment should never be a factor in trying something new.
Although people have their reasons why they don’t want to try CrossFit, fear should not be one of them. CrossFit can be a fun and exciting way to keep fit. Give it a try. Who knows? You might just get hooked — like I did!
And if any of my local friends are interested in hitting a Saturday “Bring A Friend” WOD, hit me up!