“All I want from tomorrow is to get it better than today…”
— Bruce Hornsby (or Huey Lewis — whomever you prefer)“You’re only human; you’re allowed to make your share of mistakes…”
— Billy Joel
One of my favorite books is The Sword of Shannara by Terry Brooks. For the benefit of those of you who’ve never read it (spoiler alert: if you’ve never read it and want to, I suggest you stop reading this paragraph and move to the next one, because what I’m about to say doesn’t get revealed until near the end of the book), the book involves a magic sword that has the ability to reveal truth. When the sword’s magic is invoked, both the wielder and the recipient are forced to confront the truth.
There are many times that I wish I had a Sword of Shannara. I can think of many people who would benefit from its magical power. And I put myself at the top of that list.
An incident that occurred last night served to remind me of the blind spots that I have. I don’t care to talk about the incident (the details aren’t important here, anyway), except that I felt as though I’d taken a big step backwards. It’s not the first time that I’ve taken a step back, and as much as I try to avoid it, I suspect that it will likely not be the last.
We all have blind spots; it’s a part of being human. More often than not, we aren’t aware that those blind spots are there — hey, there’s a reason why they’re called “blind” spots. There is no magic sword to reveal those blind spots. The best mirror we have for those blind spots is each other, in how we behave and react around one another. If someone is smiling, laughing, or nodding his or her head around you, you’re probably doing something right. If that person is frowning, yelling, or criticizing, then probably not.
As much as we try to do our best, inevitably, we will stumble somewhere down the line. I admit that I’m probably still dwelling on it — I probably wouldn’t be writing this article, otherwise. I’ll eventually get over it. All we can do is to recognize our blind spots — once we recognize that they’re there — keep an open mind, learn from our mistakes, and keep moving forward.